The most frequent question has come up about anal sex. “How bad does it hurt?”
I hate talking about my personal sexual activity, but DAMN does it hurt!
I applaud you girls with the gift of mastering anal sex. No, no, wait! I fucking bow down to you. Because as many of us girls know, WOW, it’s not always easy.
Porn-stars with their magic tricks shoving gigantic dildos inside them, makes me feel as if I have accomplished nothing (not seriously).
It hurts my lower stomach just watching it. Like when a guy gets hit in the balls, he wraps himself up in fetal position because his stomachs starts to hurt.
So I figured since I can’t make the pain go away, and knowing us humans the curiosity of anal orgasms won’t go away, I have found the top 4 tips on making anal sex a bit more enjoyable. Hope it helps!
TOP 4 TIPS FOR ENJOYING ANAL SEX
-Sharon, Age 38
What tips can I offer on the subject of anal sex?
-First: I think that we as women need to discuss anal sex beyond and outside of the context of women being penetrated by men. This context is too narrow.
-Second: To enjoy it you need: lube, patience, the right lube, to feel safe, self-awareness, more lube, a willing partner, a patient partner, communication, knowledge of your partner, curiosity, and trust.
-Lube:
Lubrication is essential when you first experiment! If you are starting to explore this aspect of love making it is essential that both partners become familiar with the sensations of both giving and receiving this form of loving touch. By the way: not all lubricants are the same. I like sesame oil and Astro-Glide.
-Relax:
My second boy friend introduced me to anal play when I was 20. The first time I invited him in to my bed he rather gently put the pad of his thumb over my anus when he was eating me out. I was quite startled and momentarily fearful by the sensation at first. But he did not try to penetrate me and within a few of minutes it felt normal. He varied the thumb pressure a bit from time to time and he moved his thumb around a bit. I felt good. Then we changed position and his hands went elsewhere. Looking back this was the turning point for me. I felt safe when he touched me back there and everywhere else.
